Hi kev, This better post this time, 4th time! Kev, i have had trouble with the cold also & i live in texas so im sure ive been a baby! I raised teenagers into responsible adults so the secret is God.. i asked myself "What would God the father do, want, say?" He disciplines, protects, provides, loves unconditionally.So thats what i did. When i get to the end of my rope thats when He takes over & changes my circumstances, He has never failed me. Remember there is only one "you" & your loved ones need you even if broken! Praying for your daughter, mom & other circumstancess to be changed. My dad beat serious cancer 5 times! Yes, even miraculous things happened! Im sorry about your mom, & i will pray for her as well. I wish i could help you more. My kids acted like all the things i had taught them, even things that they had known since age 2 suddenly they forgot! Like call when you get there, hang up your towel, dont talk to strangers on the internet etc etcThey were looking for any weakness that they could push the limits! I had to stick to my guns with authority, minding me, rules, manners, even i think they wanted to test my unconditional love for them! They were good, & i didnt have big probs with them but we had our share of groundings,taking away priviledges,anger that i wouldnt let them run free etc! On another subject when you say arach pain what are your current symptoms, where is it in your spine, what do you think caused it,how long have you had it???